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Why Do Guys Send Text Messages To Keep Ter Touch While Dating?

Overheen the last several months, I have dated Trio guys (not at the same time) that I met on Match.com. They all seem to have one thing te common: after 2-4 dates, they like to touch almohadilla with mij during the week by sending mij text messages to my cell phone! Albeit I appreciate them thinking about mij ter the middle of the day, if wij have gone out on several dates, at what point is it adequate to expect a Five minute phone call a few times a week? Is it too early ter the dating process for phone voeling? How are you supposed to progress the relationship if you never “touch-base” by actually speaking to one another? Is this typical of people you meet on line? Or, am I just old fashioned (39) and not used to this fresh facet of dating?

Guys across America are telling, “Hey, honey. You’re not significant enough to get five minutes of phone time. Please accept this powerless form of communication and permit mij to keep on sleeping with you.”

You struck a chord with this email.

I HATE text messaging. I think it should be used exclusively for only a handful of things:

Letting someone know that you’re lost or running late.

Telling someone where you’re located ter a crowded theater or brochure.

Writing flirty or dirty notes to be provocative and wild.

Everything else should be banned. I mean, email is bad enough. And I say this spil a dude who lives by email. But anyone who’s everzwijn used it knows how conversations can lightly take a wrong turn. There’s no setting, tone, voice, or facial expressions to modify your message. The next thing you know, you’re having a perverse argument that could have bot lightly avoided te person. Plus you have a transcript to commemorate it!

Texting is ten times worse. You’re encouraged to misspell, you’re discouraged from telling anything deep or meaningful. Essentially, texting is emailing for the lazy, illiterate and mobile. You send a text when you don’t want to talk to someone, but you want to let them know you’re thinking of them. And what can be more flattering than conveying, electronically, the idea that you DON’T want to talk to the woman you’re courting? Essentially, guys across America are telling, “Hey, honey. You’re not significant enough to get five minutes of phone time. Please accept this feeble form of communication and permit mij to keep on sleeping with you.”

And spil long spil you let them do it, they will proceed to do it. Because texting is only enabled by the person who writes back to the text. If you don’t react to texts, guess what? You’re letting him know that it’s a poor way to reach you.

If you don’t react to texts, guess what? You’re letting him know that it’s a poor way to reach you.

Understand this about dudes: they will usually do the least that they can to maintain their relationship. So if he can text you at 11pm on Friday night after a week of muffle and charm you with something like: “UR Two hott! Jizz overheen now?”, well, you get what you deserve. But here’s the existente problem: there are women everywhere who are finish suckers for this crap. Maybe it’s a low self esteem thing, but spil long spil some desperate dame lets him get away with it, he’ll always have a low-maintenance sexual outlet. Therefore, he’ll never feel the need to do all the strong lifting of relationships such spil “calling” and “dates”….

But the truth is, Rikki, you don’t need guys who won’t call you. It’s a self-selecting process. If he’s a good man who is genuinely interested ter you, he will make the kleuter of effort that exposes this. If five minutes on the phone is too much work for him, it speaks for itself.

Spil to how you redirect a lazy man to give you more effort, the trick is to do it with wit and charm. Nothing will turn off a dude swifter than: “I HATE TEXTING. IF YOU THINK THAT LITTLE OF Mij, GO TAKE A HIKE, DOUCHEBAG!” Attempt to redirect his energy te a positive way that encourages him to keep working for you.

Spil long spil he’s working for you, you’re still te control. So maybe the next time he texts, let him know that you turn off your cellphone at work, and he can best reach you on your regular phone. Or maybe you tell him te a flirty way that the way to your heart is through your voice – and that, if he’s fortunate, he might be able to catch you on your cell at 7:30 before you go out tonight. What you don’t want to do is sound like a stick-in-the-mud, my-way-or-the-highway woman. But you can reject to play his spel and still make him feel attractive, which will keep him pursuing you through whatever medium you choose. Good luck.

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